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Puberty: What Changes—and Why Behavior Shifts

All Ages
ADVANCED

Summary

Autistic children/teens puberty with sensory/executive function support. Ages 5-10: prep (deodorant, visual timeline, body hair talk); 10-14: active (periods, acne, school kit); 14-18: independence (hygiene ownership, dating prep, budget). Shame-free scripts, parent-child agreements.

Key Points

  • 5-10yrs: Deodorant 8-9 (after shower, unscented); visual timeline; body hair/big feelings talk 9-10; pediatrician check 11.
  • 10-14yrs: School kit (underwear, pads, wipes, jeans); daily (AM shower/face/deodorant; midday pad check; PM face); tracker; agreement; log.
  • 14-18yrs: AM (shower, shave, face, deodorant); post-gym refresh; PM skincare; agreement (ownership, communication, privacy); monthly budget.
  • Menstruation: Tracker app/calendar; school kit; midday change; cramps (heat, pain relief); track patterns.
  • Escalate for: Heavy bleeding (soaking 1-2hrs, severe cramps - doctor); extreme mood/self-harm (mental health/crisis); early puberty <8-9 (pediatrician); lumps/weight (doctor); PANS/PANDAS (specialist).

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Puberty is a long, intense process for any young person. For autistic kids, tweens, and teens—and for those with PANS/PANDAS—it can feel like their body, brain, and social world are all changing at once, without a clear manual. New smells, skin changes, body hair, periods, erections, voice changes, and unwritten social rules about privacy and attraction can trigger shame, anxiety, or shutdown.

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